WOOHOO! I have gone one whole month without buying shoes, clothes, or any retail items! I am really proud of myself. I thought this would be the toughest month. With all the after Christmas and End of the Season sales I really thought it would be hard not to give in and just hit the Complete Order button. Not only did I not get to that point I found myself not even go on the sites to browse new and sale items.
Is this all self control? I really want to say yes, but I can’t give my self control all the credit. Stopping my self from shopping has more to do with telling these three people in particular to “suck it!” I know they don’t think I can do it. I know I can do whatever I set my mind to.
What have I been doing since I have not been burning calories shopping? I have been walking every afternoon. My friend (who supports me) and I have been walking between 3-4 miles every day. That to me is a better way to spend my time. One of the way I listed earlier in the year as a substitution to shopping was exercise. I walk with her for an hour a day and then I go to the gym for an hour. See I am saving money AND getting back into shape.
I feel a sense of accomplishment knowing I went a whole month without shopping. I know it might not seem like a big deal to some people but to me it. I am learning things will not replace feelings and thoughts. I do not need to surround myself with things. Nor do I need to surround myself with people who like me for the things I have.
I have spent more quality time doing things with people who like me for my time and friendship and not people who want to compare my shoes with the shoes they have or my things with their things. At the end of the day they are only things. I have noticed, with one of my friends, she did not call me to hang out unless she needed someone to go to the mall with. I am more than a shopping buddy. I have more to offer a friendship than the limit on my credit card and the familiarity of a sales person when we walk into certain stores.
The other friend, who likes to know what I have and what I am buying just so she can have the same things is such a contradiction. She complains other people copy her. She does the same thing. She uses people until she is done with them and then discards but that’s not enough she has to have everyone in her circle also disassociate themselves with her discards.
I guess as I am moving on from my need to have “things” in my life I am also distancing myself from friends who are like “things.” There is more than one lesson to be learned from this mission.
Wow that was an interesting rant. It must have been festering for quite some time for me to finally just get it all out there.
There are 11 months left!!!!
I can do this….right?